Insulting Via Offering Assistance
Jun 14, 2023 3:14:19 GMT -5
Post by Radrook Admin on Jun 14, 2023 3:14:19 GMT -5
Insulting Via Offering Assistance
Offering to help another human being with some difficult task is a noble gesture. Unfortunately, it can also be used in a negative way. Bellow are two examples of how offering assistance can be used in order to insult someone using examples of personal experiences that I have had in relation to it.
Intelligence Related
For example, I was once offered help in filling out an application for a social security card as a teenager and the Anglo American female interviewer began spelling out the words for me as if I were an uneducated ignoramus. People who heard her noticed the obvious ridiculousness of her behavior and began to laugh. I took it as ignorance and had a hard time being offended. Nevertheless the effort at assistance was to insult my intelligence.
Another time I had a someone explaining what tissue paper was and what a pear was and miming the meaning of the word umbrella by making umbrella-opening motions and raining motions with the fingers of both hands when saying the words umbrella and rain.
Were her intentions to offend? Maybe yes and maybe no. However, that doesn't nullify the fact that she was offensive. After all, I was conversing in perfect English. So obviously her assumption was based on her experiences with others who were deficient in speaking the language. But why apply it to me? The only conclusion I could reach was that she wanted to convey her low opinion of Latinos. So she offered assistance as a way to convey that negative opinion.
Age Related
Another way of offering assistance in order to offend is related to a man's advanced age. This is especially true of Puerto Rican women. You see, Puerto Rican women cannot tolerate any older man showing any type of natural interest in them. No, by older I don't mean senior citizens. I mean including men in their forties or fifties showing interest in a women who are perhaps in their early or late twenties.
You see, Puerto Rican women take it as personal insult. So in order to put the man in what they consider to be his proper place, they will either totally ignore him, or else do something to express how utterly worthless as a man he is in their opinion.
Well, one way they do this is by offering a man assistance with something that a man is expected to handle easily, such as opening a door, or carrying packages. After doing this, they walk away totally satisfied that they have told the man just how utterly worthless he is to them as a man and to keep his distance. The older the male the more furious they will become and the more blatantly cruel will be their insult.
One of these just recently offered to open the hallway door for me. When I calmly declined the offer, she went out of her way and waited downstairs at the building entrance and opened that door as if I were incapable of managing it myself anyway in order to get her insult across.
Now, had I taken umbrage and said something in self defense, then she would have gotten her entire family after me. Which of course I definitely don't want. Why this reaction? Because I glanced at her butt? Well, Gee! if a woman wears tight slacks and clothing which highlights ass, vagina, hips, tits, and thighs, then of course it will draw man's attention regardless of age.
Fortunately, most women of other cultures understand that this is a perfectly normal male reaction regardless of age. But women from this island refuse to accept that it will also draw the attention of older men and become extremely infuriated whenever it does. So in order to display their intense disapproval and blow off steam, they offer older men assistance with easy things as an insult. After the insult has been delivered, of course, they walk away totally satisfied that they have put the offender in his rightful place.