Keeping a Band Together: Things to avoid.
Aug 16, 2019 19:35:09 GMT -5
Post by Radrook Admin on Aug 16, 2019 19:35:09 GMT -5
Keeping a Band Together: Things to Avoid.
It is easy to gather the musicians to make a band and even get to produce good music. It isn't so easy to keep the group together since there are many things that can easily tear the band apart. Why? Simple, because the group is composed of humans who have different personalities and if those personalities are antagonistic to one another-there will be conflict. The natural human reaction to conflict is to eliminate it and very often the solution chosen will be leaving. Here are some things to avoid because they create tension and will tend to be divisive and might ultimately cause a band to disintegrate.
Never include Narcissistic person in the band.
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder with a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Those affected often spend much time thinking about achieving power or success, or on their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around them.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
This means that the member resents any accomplishment of another band member because he feels it diminishes him. If another member sings lead and he can't because his voice is annoying, he will feel resentful. If he isn't the lead guitar he feels resentful. Even if a player plays a song hi is unfamiliar with, it ticks him off. If he isn't the manager he feels resentful.
So because of this, narcissistic people are not good team players because they are in a constant pathological competition with everyone around them. They resent any accolades given others in their presence. Desire to be the center of attention and if they are not, they will tend to alleviate the agonizing envy by lashing out with blatant insults or innuendos in order to cut the offending band member down to tolerable size.
It is a character flaw that the person will introduce into any group the person joins and will grate on the nerves of the other musicians who are negatively affected by the constant grumbling and generally unhappy and insistence on doing things that the person is not qualified to do. Sooner or later, such a band-member either leaves the group voluntarily, or else is replaced with someone who can feel comfortable with his place.
So because of this, narcissistic people are not good team players because they are in a constant pathological competition with everyone around them. They resent any accolades given others in their presence. Desire to be the center of attention and if they are not, they will tend to alleviate the agonizing envy by lashing out with blatant insults or innuendos in order to cut the offending band member down to tolerable size.
It is a character flaw that the person will introduce into any group the person joins and will grate on the nerves of the other musicians who are negatively affected by the constant grumbling and generally unhappy and insistence on doing things that the person is not qualified to do. Sooner or later, such a band-member either leaves the group voluntarily, or else is replaced with someone who can feel comfortable with his place.
Keep love-affairs away from the group.
If a group member breaks up with his girlfriend or boyfriend in the case of a female member, and she begins indicating that she wants you to make a move-don't. The band member might still feel emotionally attached and if you move in will inevitably perceive you as the probable cause of why they broke up. In fact, that might actually be the case. You show up in the group, he or she likes you better and they break up. But even if the band member was the one who broke up the relationship, don't get involved. If you do, you might be seen as consoling or taking sides. This causes resentment which will interfere with the bad member's ability to calmly cooperate as a members of the group as long as you are there. It might even lead to violence. So best to avoid that particular scenario.
Keep financial matters clear.
Never keep band members constantly wondering whether they are being financially cheated by always negotiating payment contracts behind their backs. Always provide an above-board atmosphere where payment agreements are clear-cut and can easily be verified. In fact, have all members present when these matters are being discussed and settled. Otherwise some members might feel they are being cunningly deprived when they get paid what they rightfully consider a ridiculously small amount of money for a performance effort which is clearly worth much more.
After several incidences, where the band member feels cheated, he might just decide it isn't worth being part of the band any longer, and you might find yourself without a base guitarist, drummer, rhythm guitarist, or maybe a talented lead singer. So treat band-members financially as you would have them treat you, with fairness. Being stingy and dishonest, or both, can prove very costly.
After several incidences, where the band member feels cheated, he might just decide it isn't worth being part of the band any longer, and you might find yourself without a base guitarist, drummer, rhythm guitarist, or maybe a talented lead singer. So treat band-members financially as you would have them treat you, with fairness. Being stingy and dishonest, or both, can prove very costly.