Abusive Parenting Sept 15, 2019 6:53:22 GMT -5
Post by Radrook Admin on Sept 15, 2019 6:53:22 GMT -5
This term, "abusive parenting" is ironic since parents are expected to be a child's best friends, or at the least guardians who provide guidance along life's treacherous paths. Unfortunately, this is not always so. Instead, there are parents who abuse their children both physically and psychologically.
Ever see parents claiming to love their kids while yelling at them at the top of their lungs, and battering them savagely with belts? Or perhaps you might have observed them abusing their kids psychologically by totally ignoring them, or else denigrating every single thing they attempt to accomplish? I have! I have observed both verbal abuse and physical abuse of that kind meted out in public and experienced it myself as a child and a teenager.
I have also observed children being abused in church, of all places. One frail-looking kid of approx. six, was being beaten in church with a thick leather belt by his tall, muscular father, because he disobeyed or was naughty. Sometimes I'd hear screaming in the church bathroom as the parent self-righteously pummeled their kids because they could not sit still during the one-hour sermon or Bible study.
This happens on a very regular basis as a quick research will show.
Please consider the following statistics:
Scope of the Child Abuse IssueChildren are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. It’s a widespread war against our children that we have the power to stop, and understanding the issue is the first step. Just how bad is the issue of child abuse in the United States?
Every year more than 3.6 million referrals are made to child protection agencies involving more than 6.6 million children (a referral can include multiple children).
The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average between four and seven children every day to child abuse and neglect.
Proposing Parenting Permits
Which raises the question of why licenses are required for driving a motor vehicle, but not for the privilege of parenthood. After all, the consequences of ineptitude in both situations are similar: people are in danger of getting hurt.
Drivers might plow into oncoming traffic. Or having little control over steering might result in the car flying off the road into a picnic area and plowing though the picnickers. So requiring a driver’s license, as evidence of a reasonable amount of driving skill, makes plenty of sense.
Similarly, kids can be damaged by parents who don't know what they are doing. For example, if parents are negligent in providing moral guidance, it might lead to a life of crime resulting in imprisonment and execution via the electric chair, gas chamber or lethal injection.
Such parenting ineptitude can also result in neighborhoods where the predatory/prey modus operandi prevails, and individual safety is always at critical risk. Or else lead to drug addiction and drug trafficking induced by frustration of seeing no other solution to extreme poverty. In short, it is a clear threat to society.
So if this is glaringly so, then why isn't a parenting license required? After all, what harm is there in demanding that those responsible for developing humans, know what they are doing?
Curiously, one objection that keeps cropping up whenever I offer this suggestion is “But who decides?” “Who qualifies to judge who may or may not become a parent?”
It's as if they believe that judging someone worthy or unworthy of being a good parent demands some unattainable supernatural faculty such as omniscience. Well, adoption agency personnel do that all the time without being staffed by gods. Just some basic investigation of the foster parents' is all that's necessary.
In short, just as with adoptive parents, natural parents should be screened for mental stability, financial ability to provide, and criminal record. After all, you don’t want a manic-depressive in charge of a newborn, or a person who is living in abject poverty taking on another mouth to feed, or a criminally-inclined individual glibly and enthusiastically passing on his twisted sense of justice to the next generation-right?
If they fail, then they can reapply after they have removed any obstacle to qualifying for a parenting license. That would reduce the possibility of the handing children over to what could very well be their worst enemies who will psychologically abuse them for approx. eighteen years or more before finally being set free.