Seeking Friendship via Insults? Oct 26, 2020 17:21:58 GMT -5
Post by Radrook Admin on Oct 26, 2020 17:21:58 GMT -5
Joke about Yourself
Some people try to be firendly by joking about another person's comportment. Believe me, that is not a good approach to making friends. Nobody likes to hear criticism and it tends to incduce anger and a need to strike back.
It can also lead to a heated argument and heated arguments can easily escalate out of control. Especially if the person who is being joked about is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. So if indeed you ant to make okes about human foibles, then I suggest to joke about your own.
Case in Point
Just a moment ago I was subjected to a barrage of criticism at a men's clothing store. The saleperson might have been joking but he sure as hell looked and sounded dead serious. Since I did nor go there to argue I even thanked him for his asdvice and admitted that I might have been wrong.
I thought that wiould stop this guy from continuing, but it only seemed to embolden him. In the constant hassle, I bought pants that were too tight around the waist and had to go back. Well, As soon as I stepped inside he started again. Didn'feel like any attempts at friendsship and jokes felt like mockery based on ethnicity. All the while the lady in the store was laughing and it sure as hell wasn't at him
I arrived home and could not shake the feeling of having been abused. So I went back and asked him to step outside. He stepped outside and acted as if it had all been an attempt at being friendly. He did seem a bit uneasy about the Kubotan I was holding in my hand since he kept eying it nervousdy.
I accepted his explanattion and and didn't tell him all he really needed to hear for the sake of peace. Everything turned out well because he in turn chose not escalat via further insults. Had he escalated via further insults, then he would have been in for a very unpleasant totally unecessary hassle which would have been entirely his fault.
Want to make friends? Start by showing respect. Want to use humor, make personal jokes about yourself-not otherrs. It makes for peace.